How to Make Each Child Feel Important in a Large Family

How can you make each child feel important? It’s actually easier than you might think. Basically, if you want to have more one on one time with your children, simpy devote more time to that child. Easier said than done, am I right?

In all seriousness, though, it really is as simple as setting aside that time. You can start by asking your child what they would like to do together. If they don’t have any ideas, you can suggest something fun.

Dealing With Children of Different Ages

Having children, it can be hard to give each one the attention they want. It can be especially hard when you have children of different ages. You may find yourself feeling torn between your younger children and older children. So, how can you make each child feel important?

For example, if you have a 12 year old, a 10 year old, and a 4 year old. Maybe the oldest is a boy and the youngest are girls. You’ll like hear things like, “Mom, I’m bored. What can I do?” “Mom, let’s play a game!” “Mom, I want to watch a movie!”

Well, the truth is, you can’t spend that much time with any one of my children. The reality is, you can only watch one movie at a time. You can only play one game at a time. You have to do the best you can to make sure each one of your children feels important.

The first step is to try to understand what each child is going through. The 12 year old is probably getting ready to go to middle school. That’s a big step, right? The 10 year old is probably getting ready to start a new school year as well. The 4 year old will have wants and needs of their own.

Learning to balance your available time between all your children is important. You don’t want to ignore any one of them.

How to make each child feel important

One way you can make each child feel important is by giving them what they want. If they want to play a game, play a game. If they want to watch a movie, watch a movie. If they want to go for a walk, go for a walk.

Of course, you have to be careful with this. You don’t want to let your children control you. You want to balance their wants with your needs.

Remember, you can’t spend all your time with one child. You have to do the best you can to make sure each one of your children feels important.

How to Make Every Child Feel Special

Another thing you can do to make every child feel special, is to make sure they have a special time with you every day. Each child will have a different time they’ll be excited about.

For example, maybe your 12 year old wants to play a game. You could say, “Okay, Monday nights will be game night.” Make sure you do two things. One, make sure that you do something that your child wants to do. Two, make sure the time is special.

If you’re going to watch a movie, be sure to make it a special time. To do this, dim the lights and light a candle. Also, get some blankets and pillows. Get ready for a good movie night!

Tips on Making Kids Feel Important

Here’s six specific tips on how to make kids feel important:

  1. Make sure to take time to give each child your undivided attention.
  2. Let each child know that you’re always there to listen to their problems.
  3. Ask each child what they would like to do together.
  4. Be sure to do something special for each child.
  5. Remember to balance your wants with your needs.
  6. Most important of all, remember to love and cherish each one of your children.

Learning how to make every child feel important is easier than it may seem. If you remember to take time to make each one of you children feel special, you’ll have done what you can.

As a parent this can be difficult, but it’s part of the job. If you would like to know ways to help you in parenting, including books, games, and play ideas, be sure to bookmark the site and check back often. Feel free to share in any parents’ group you might be in on social media.

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Kenny Kings

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